Welcome to the Marriage and Martinis’ Friday Five!
5) “Til Death Do Us Part Is A Really Long Time Not To Make Any Big Mistakes”
This past Monday’s episode about gambling was a really tough one for us to record. We’re definitely proud of the way it turned out, and it shows the ups and downs of a more debaucherous lifestyle. Some of our best memories were in Atlantic City and Las Vegas. But when those infrequent trips became a regular occurrence, life got really complicated. Thank you to everyone who listened to this episode without judgment. We’re so grateful for the support.
4) Remember “The Bling Ring?”
On this coming Monday’s episode, we sat down with Alexis Haines, who was one of the infamous teens who robbed Orlando Bloom’s house, and was accused of robbing Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan and more. We talk all about how she recovered from heroin addiction, a prison sentence, and how she has gone from a notoriously troubled reality star to a successful drug counselor who is working hard to end the stigma about addiction and mental health. We also dive into how we plan on discussing our big mistakes with our kids and why we need to stop judging each other based on our past, and instead start focusing on the progress we are making to become better human beings. Make sure you are subscribed to the podcast to hear this awesome conversation when it first launches this coming Monday!
3) “Being desired Is The Real Orgasm,” and other Truthbombs
When I was planning the The Monogamy and More Episode, I discovered so many amazing female researchers of whom I had never before heard. Marta Meana openly discusses the fact that women are turned on by feeling wanted more than just about anything else. "...Being desired is extremely arousing for women. The reason for that is that being desired means that a man doesn't just want to have sex. He wants to have sex with you." This might be why passion fizzles more easily for women in marriages over the course of time than for men. Men are more turned on by external influences. Women, on the other hand need that raw sense of being desired, and oftentimes in relationships that doesn’t for more than the first few years. You can read the insightful article from the NY Times here.
2) I Messed Up (again), and Now I’m Working to Fix It.
Our episode with the incredible ladies of Good Moms, Bad Choices raised a whole lot of topics that need to be brought up way more often, but are still considered to be taboo. How are we modeling healthy body image and body positivity for our daughters? I definitely had to put myself in check recently when my teenage girl said that she “can’t stand herself in pictures.” WHOA!! That was a gut punch because I know she has heard me say that several times. Yup, they are listening, and our words matter. Now, I’m getting in ALL the pictures, and never deleting anything no matter how I think I look. I’m lucky to be able to be in group photos with the people I love and create memories together. THAT is what I am focusing on now, and I’m making damn sure my daughter knows it!
1) DATE NIGHT QUESTIONS (or girls’ night out) from the Monogamy and More Episode:
Do you really believe there is one person for everyone?
If you had a “free pass” to have any sexual experience and then could come back and your relationship would still be 100% the same, what would that experience be?
Do you see benefits to having an open relationship? What might those be? What do you think we could learn from people who are in open marriages?
Modern gender studies show that women in their 50s and 60s are turning to same sex relationships more and more. Why do you think this might be? Is that something you could see yourself ever wanting in the future?
For more prompts and questions for open and honest communication, plus bonding challenges and strategies for discussion, get our Date Night Questions Experience ebook.