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Marriage

& Martinis

The Small Change, Big Impact Challenge

You're A Unique Person.

It's Okay To Want To Be

Loved In A Unique Way.

There is a difference between partners loving one another,

and partners knowing what makes one another feel most loved.

There is a difference between partners helping one another,

and partners understanding what is actually most helpful to one another.

There is a difference between partners needing one another,

and partners who know what the other specifically needs to feel seen, valued, and desired.

The "Small Change, Big Impact Challenge,"

provides the blueprint, support, guidance, and tools for couples to elevate the ways they show up for one another.

Two Small Challenges (One By Each Partner)

Dozens Of Opportunities To Implement And Reinforce Those Changes.

Countless Chances To Bond, Laugh, Grow, And Refresh.

One Final Celebration To Reflect On The Success. 

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THE
"SMALL CHANGE,
BIG IMPACT CHALLENGE"
IS FOR
PARTNERS WHO:

Want an engaging experience they help design, and continue personalizing and improving throughout the process.


Are willing to each show up each day for 30 days, in a manner and capacity that works within their individual schedules (but they each have to show up). 

Will remain open-minded enough to find out what they can each do to make their partner feel more seen, appreciated, and valued.

Believe that elevating and improving their relationship should be dynamic, fun, intriguing, "just challenging enough," and has more potential than one could possibly imagine.

“I know I’m biased, but I think I had the best challenge ever for my husband. He had to learn about menopause. He was hesitant at first, but wound up being a really good sport about it, and I LOVED seeing him in bed at night with his book, underlining and actually taking it pretty seriously. At the check-ins, he wound up teaching me a bunch of stuff. Plus, it was so awesome to have this new topic to talk about instead of the same old stuff, and it led to a bunch of other interesting conversations. His challenge for me was to finish a renovation job in the house I started two years ago. It was good motivation to do it. Even if I wouldn't go so far to say I liked that challenge, I would 100% say that I loved everything else and we will absolutely be doing it again soon. I already have my challenge picked out.”

Cindy (and Chase) S.

“I’m not going to pretend I wanted to participate, because that would be a lie. But I really wound up being glad I did, and honestly, it was a lot of fun. My challenge for Lauren was to learn more about planning for retirement, and I think she wanted to kill me when I first revealed it. I think she wound up enjoying it way more than she thought. And I had been carrying the burden of this for so long, that I was so appreciative she could help more. It really was a ‘win win.’”

William M.

"We didn’t know what we were getting into when we signed up, but we were struggling and looking for something different. My challenge to Bill was to be in charge of dinner three nights a week. We agreed on a budget and some other details. It seem like such a simple challenge, but when I tell you it has so positively impacted our weeks and how we interact on a daily basis, I mean it has really led to so much more gratitude.William M.

WHAT SMALL CHANGE CHALLENGE WILL YOU DESIGN FOR YOUR PARTNER?


WHAT SMALL CHANGE CHALLENGE WILL YOUR PARTNER DESIGN FOR YOU?

✔️ Detailed Weekly Emails

✔️ List of Potential Challenge Topics

✔️ Tips & Strategies for Communication

✔️ Weekly Relationships Check-ins

✔️ Acts of Connection Planner

✔️ Content for Guided Brainstorming

✔️ Fulfilling Bonding Activities

✔️ Weekly Videos from Danielle & Adam

✔️ Challenge Celebration Exclusive Date Night Questions & Completion Certificate

The pre-planning process was so insightful. The questions provided to answer ourselves, and out loud to each other, led to so many great moments, laughs, and made us look at our relationship from a new perspective. And that was before the challenges even started! I' so glad we started early and didn't rush. It made it better.

I buy every product you offer, because The Date Night Questions book really did change our relationship. The Challenge added so many positive  moments to our days, and gave us the push we needed to spend more quality time together. Safe to say, I will keep buying all thing M&M!

Carol S.

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Guidance & Support

  • An extensive guide and step-by-step itinerary laying out in detail what each week will entail.

  • A comprehensive list of suggested challenge topics, and a list of topics we do not recommend.

  • Tips on how to plan so that you set yourselves up for success!

  • Prompts for brainstorming, planning, and carrying out each of your roles

  • Anecdotes and ideas shared from Danielle and Adam’s personal experience completing their challenge

  • Weekly videos by Danielle and Adam

  • Constructively composed questions to consider and reflect upon every step of the way

  • Calendars, schedules, reminders, and outlines to stay on track (or to more easily get back on track if you falter a bit).

Connection & Intimacy

  • Several opportunities (organically built into the content) for compliments, mutual support, and positive reinforcement.

  • Ideas to make each weekly check-in a time to bond, have fun, and communicate in a healthier way.

  • Questions to think about and answer together.

  • Themed coupons/love notes specifically crafted for partners to personalize for their significant other.

  • NOT AVAILABLE ANYWHERE ELSE Date Night Questions 

  • Resources to help plan and carry out a final, much-deserved celebration

Strategies & Resources

  • Opportunity to share podcast episodes, articles, accounts, etc. you would love your partner to learn from

  • Insights and research about how to form habits that last

  • List of podcast episodes, accounts, products, books, and articles recommended to enhance and strengthen your overall bonding experience

  • Tips on how to stay motivated and keep up the momentum 

  • Responsive and communicative team behind the creation of this challenge whom you can access and email with questions

WHATS INCLUDED

IN MY PURCHASE OF THE "SMALL CHANGE, BIG IMPACT" CHALLENGE?

  • What does “Beyond Permission” mean, exactly?
    So many of us have spent so much of our lives feeling like we couldn’t behave, speak, dress or even think a certain way. We were so busy trying to be “the good girl,” or follow “the rules,” so we wouldn’t face shame, stigma or be put back in line. But that all changes right now! As soon as you enter our workshop, you’re walking into a dimension in which you have total PERMISSION to explore all facets: needs, desires, relationships, notions about midlife, sex while aging, gender roles and norms, secret fantasies - all of it and more! No matter what aspects of midlife, sex, relationships, communication, dating, monogamy, alternative lifestyles, etc., interest you most, you’ll have a safe space, supportive girl gang, in-depth guidebooks created specifically for this workshop, uniquely-effective activities, more knowledge, and tons of chances to share, learn, and grow. Walk away from the workshop feeling confident and ready to make changes - whether it’s having hard conversations, asking for what you want, experimenting with something new, or just feeling more in love with and in touch with your sensual and sexual self.
  • Do I have to be in a certain age range to attend?
    We've created this workshop for the woman who has experienced life and wants to make new choices going forward. There's no age limit on that!
  • Will there be any men at the workshop?
    This is a space to explore female sexuality. We welcome people across the gender spectrum who have a lived experience of female sexuality - cisgender women, gender queer people who were AFAB, and transgender women. Danielle’s husband will be at one a la carte (ask a couple), but otherwise, this is a weekend centered around the feminine experience, sisterhood, and embracing womanhood.
  • Do I have to be a mom to attend?
    Nope! We have one a la carte session specifically for moms, and the topic will most certainly come up at times throughout the weekend, but for the most part, all sessions, guidebooks, and activities are intended for absolutely everyone.
  • I'm currently single. Is this the right place for me?
    Absolutely! Every relationship status is welcomed, embraced, and will be covered in some capacity, and in different scenarios. It will be a very well-rounded, informative experience with a lot of applicable tips, strategies, and resources, no matter the attendee’s current situation. Even if the current status is, “it’s complicated,” you belong here!
  • What if I can't be there the entire weekend?
    No problem! Every session will be recorded and you'll have access to the replays for seven days so you can watch at your leisure. Only registered attendees will have access to the recordings.
  • I really want to participate, but privacy is important to me. Is there a way to ensure that my anonymity is protected?
    We understand privacy is key, so everything will be discreet. This is a weekend for solidarity and bonding where we want you to feel completely safe. What happens here stays here! The charge on your credit card will be from Beyond Permission VIP boxes, merch purchases, and free giveaways will be shipped in unmarked packaging In our video conferencing software, you are able to choose any screen name, so you can be as anonymous as you’d like. To promote connections within the community, we encourage you to maintain the same name throughout the weekend. Video replays will ONLY be available to registered participants. Video replays will only feature Leah, Danielle, and anyone who might volunteer for some on-the-spot coaching. Participate in whatever capacity you feel comfortable! We will never “call on someone” at random or force anyone to take part in any activity or conversation that feels out of their zone of comfort. This workshop is all about YOU and your needs.
  • Do I have to have my webcam on during the sessions?
    Keep your camera on the whole time, off the whole time, or some combination of both. Make the experience what works best for you! We are committed to creating a space that nurtures feeling safe, supported, and secure just for being exactly who you are. So, our hope is that each person will feel compelled and comfortable enough to turn on their camera at least some of the time, but it is not required. We only ask that each person come with an open mind and go with the natural flow of the weekend, making choices about participation and sharing along the way.
  • Will these sessions be lecture-style? Interactive? A mix?
    The sessions included for regular registrants (Goddesses of Permission), will be a blend of all different styles, but they absolutely will not feel like lectures! There will be: an element of fun, provocativeness, and personal storytelling, educational talks to gain knowledge and background informative discussions to share and reflect upon different ideas, Q&A sessions with Leah and Danielle, and interactive activities to help apply new concepts, strategies, and implementation tools. There will also be short breaks, bonding opportunities, time for giveaways and other surprises. VIP sessions (Girl Talk After Dark) are structured differently. These will be more informal, conversational style “parties,” to be used as a time to touch more deeply on the day’s sessions, and chat about whatever is on everyone’s minds after a day of growth and exploration. We have greatly limited the amount of VIP tickets available, as a means to ensure that everyone will get plenty of time to share, contribute, ask questions, or answer other people’s questions. Just as in the regular workshop, no one will be required to share, but we do hope each person will keep an open mind and not decide until the opportunity presents!
  • This workshop excites me, but I’m not totally comfortable being so open about certain issues. What will be expected concerning participation and sharing?
    This entire workshop revolves around meeting each person where they are currently at! There will be opportunities to share and take part in activities to whatever capacity works for each attendee. Of course, we’re interested in hearing from everyone, but it is absolutely not required.
  • I'm part of the LGBTQ+ / ENM community. Is this an appropriate workshop for me?
    Absolutely! Leah is part of the queer and ENM community and Danielle is a fierce ally and proud mom whose daughter is part of the LGBTQ community!. Regardless of your orientation, relationship structure, etc., you are welcome here!
  • Is this group therapy?
    No. Leah is a coach (not a therapist) and she is trauma informed, but she is not a trauma specialist. Our focus throughout the weekend will be how you experience your sexual self today, and how you would like to experience it in the future. This will involve delving into the messages you heard in the past, but we won’t be going deep into anyone’s trauma history.
  • I have a history of sexual trauma / assault. Will there be trigger warnings?
    First, we’re so sorry that you’ve been hurt. You didn’t deserve that and nobody should have to go through it. With that said, there is a growing body of evidence that suggests trigger warnings may actually degrade your ability to deal with difficult things. As a coach who prioritizes evidence-based mental health practices, rather than following popular trends, Leah has chosen to not use trigger warnings in her podcast, coaching, and teaching.

Still have unanswered questions? Make sure you’ve listened to the Marriage and Martinis’ podcast episode “The Challenge,” and be sure to tune in to Marriage and Martinis’ instagram posts and stories for ongoing updates and descriptions. Also, feel free to reach out to jessica@marriageandmartinis.com, our “challenge” liaison and showrunner, who will gladly answer any questions in as timely and comprehensively as possible.

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