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Say hello to 
The Challenge

From the podcasters who brought you the bestselling Date Night Questions ... Get Ready to complete the Marriage and Martinis four week Couples Challenge!


Our Features





An in-depth guide that helps each partner design a “right fit” challenge for one another. This “blueprint” specifically walks each partner through the steps to shape one another’s challenge in a manner that's motivating, realistic, and gentle. It is also a “jumping off” tool for so much more to come.


Step by step instructions for the exciting challenge “reveals,” and instructions for how to collaboratively finalize the details, so each partner feels comfortable and ready to begin.


Weekly emails include pro-tips to keep the experience productive, fun and fresh. These newsletters also offer prompts to reflect on progress, secrets on how to keep communication open and gentle, strategies to stay motivated and keep up momentum, and ideas for showing gratitude throughout. 


Four private videos featuring hosts, Danielle and Adam, sharing anecdotes about their own “challenge” experiences, tips, ideas, and strategies, “do’s” and “don'ts,” and so much more!


Special chapter of Marriage and Martinis’ famous, wildly-popular Date Night Questions, not available anywhere else, and specifically designed and tailored for this experience. No matter where and when you decide to celebrate the completion of the (first) thirty days of your challenge, the Date Night Questions will help curate the perfect environment to applaud your success, highlight the progress made, commiserate over the struggles you both faced, laugh about your “challenge bloopers” and inevitable missteps, and discuss how to keep moving forward, evolving, and improving individually and as a solid team.

  • What does “Beyond Permission” mean, exactly?
    So many of us have spent so much of our lives feeling like we couldn’t behave, speak, dress or even think a certain way. We were so busy trying to be “the good girl,” or follow “the rules,” so we wouldn’t face shame, stigma or be put back in line. But that all changes right now! As soon as you enter our workshop, you’re walking into a dimension in which you have total PERMISSION to explore all facets: needs, desires, relationships, notions about midlife, sex while aging, gender roles and norms, secret fantasies - all of it and more! No matter what aspects of midlife, sex, relationships, communication, dating, monogamy, alternative lifestyles, etc., interest you most, you’ll have a safe space, supportive girl gang, in-depth guidebooks created specifically for this workshop, uniquely-effective activities, more knowledge, and tons of chances to share, learn, and grow. Walk away from the workshop feeling confident and ready to make changes - whether it’s having hard conversations, asking for what you want, experimenting with something new, or just feeling more in love with and in touch with your sensual and sexual self.
  • Do I have to be in a certain age range to attend?
    We've created this workshop for the woman who has experienced life and wants to make new choices going forward. There's no age limit on that!
  • Will there be any men at the workshop?
    This is a space to explore female sexuality. We welcome people across the gender spectrum who have a lived experience of female sexuality - cisgender women, gender queer people who were AFAB, and transgender women. Danielle’s husband will be at one a la carte (ask a couple), but otherwise, this is a weekend centered around the feminine experience, sisterhood, and embracing womanhood.
  • Do I have to be a mom to attend?
    Nope! We have one a la carte session specifically for moms, and the topic will most certainly come up at times throughout the weekend, but for the most part, all sessions, guidebooks, and activities are intended for absolutely everyone.
  • I'm currently single. Is this the right place for me?
    Absolutely! Every relationship status is welcomed, embraced, and will be covered in some capacity, and in different scenarios. It will be a very well-rounded, informative experience with a lot of applicable tips, strategies, and resources, no matter the attendee’s current situation. Even if the current status is, “it’s complicated,” you belong here!
  • What if I can't be there the entire weekend?
    No problem! Every session will be recorded and you'll have access to the replays for seven days so you can watch at your leisure. Only registered attendees will have access to the recordings.
  • I really want to participate, but privacy is important to me. Is there a way to ensure that my anonymity is protected?
    We understand privacy is key, so everything will be discreet. This is a weekend for solidarity and bonding where we want you to feel completely safe. What happens here stays here! The charge on your credit card will be from Beyond Permission VIP boxes, merch purchases, and free giveaways will be shipped in unmarked packaging In our video conferencing software, you are able to choose any screen name, so you can be as anonymous as you’d like. To promote connections within the community, we encourage you to maintain the same name throughout the weekend. Video replays will ONLY be available to registered participants. Video replays will only feature Leah, Danielle, and anyone who might volunteer for some on-the-spot coaching. Participate in whatever capacity you feel comfortable! We will never “call on someone” at random or force anyone to take part in any activity or conversation that feels out of their zone of comfort. This workshop is all about YOU and your needs.
  • Do I have to have my webcam on during the sessions?
    Keep your camera on the whole time, off the whole time, or some combination of both. Make the experience what works best for you! We are committed to creating a space that nurtures feeling safe, supported, and secure just for being exactly who you are. So, our hope is that each person will feel compelled and comfortable enough to turn on their camera at least some of the time, but it is not required. We only ask that each person come with an open mind and go with the natural flow of the weekend, making choices about participation and sharing along the way.
  • Will these sessions be lecture-style? Interactive? A mix?
    The sessions included for regular registrants (Goddesses of Permission), will be a blend of all different styles, but they absolutely will not feel like lectures! There will be: an element of fun, provocativeness, and personal storytelling, educational talks to gain knowledge and background informative discussions to share and reflect upon different ideas, Q&A sessions with Leah and Danielle, and interactive activities to help apply new concepts, strategies, and implementation tools. There will also be short breaks, bonding opportunities, time for giveaways and other surprises. VIP sessions (Girl Talk After Dark) are structured differently. These will be more informal, conversational style “parties,” to be used as a time to touch more deeply on the day’s sessions, and chat about whatever is on everyone’s minds after a day of growth and exploration. We have greatly limited the amount of VIP tickets available, as a means to ensure that everyone will get plenty of time to share, contribute, ask questions, or answer other people’s questions. Just as in the regular workshop, no one will be required to share, but we do hope each person will keep an open mind and not decide until the opportunity presents!
  • This workshop excites me, but I’m not totally comfortable being so open about certain issues. What will be expected concerning participation and sharing?
    This entire workshop revolves around meeting each person where they are currently at! There will be opportunities to share and take part in activities to whatever capacity works for each attendee. Of course, we’re interested in hearing from everyone, but it is absolutely not required.
  • I'm part of the LGBTQ+ / ENM community. Is this an appropriate workshop for me?
    Absolutely! Leah is part of the queer and ENM community and Danielle is a fierce ally and proud mom whose daughter is part of the LGBTQ community!. Regardless of your orientation, relationship structure, etc., you are welcome here!
  • Is this group therapy?
    No. Leah is a coach (not a therapist) and she is trauma informed, but she is not a trauma specialist. Our focus throughout the weekend will be how you experience your sexual self today, and how you would like to experience it in the future. This will involve delving into the messages you heard in the past, but we won’t be going deep into anyone’s trauma history.
  • I have a history of sexual trauma / assault. Will there be trigger warnings?
    First, we’re so sorry that you’ve been hurt. You didn’t deserve that and nobody should have to go through it. With that said, there is a growing body of evidence that suggests trigger warnings may actually degrade your ability to deal with difficult things. As a coach who prioritizes evidence-based mental health practices, rather than following popular trends, Leah has chosen to not use trigger warnings in her podcast, coaching, and teaching.

Still have unanswered questions? Make sure you’ve listened to the Marriage and Martinis’ podcast episode “The Challenge,” and be sure to tune in to Marriage and Martinis’ instagram posts and stories for ongoing updates and descriptions. Also, feel free to reach out to, our “challenge” liaison and showrunner, who will gladly answer any questions in as timely and comprehensively as possible.

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