Updated: Jul 6, 2021
Welcome to the Marriage and Martinis’ Friday Five!
5) Sex-positive parenting
This past week’s episode has been getting amazing feedback from parents who are struggling to start an ongoing dialogue about sex and sexuality with their kids. Kim from Six Minute Sex Ed gives so many great ideas to help everyone feel more comfortable. Listen to the whole episode for tons of strategies, but some of our favorite takeaways were:
Use “I” statements when discussing your young person’s situation. “I’m feeling….” or “My thoughts about this….” rather than using language that sounds accusatory.
Assess whether your growing child’s doctor is someone they’ll feel comfortable asking questions about things like contraception or anatomy if the time for that might be coming soon. If the answer is “no,” then it might be time to explore other physicians who are geared towards tweens and teens.
Make sure your conversations about the topic are balanced. In other words, if you spend ten minutes highlighting the risks of sexual activity, it’s important to also spend the same amount of time or more discussing things like what they might want in a partner, what they foresee a healthy sex life being like, and more positive aspects of sex.
4) Some Resources for Being or Becoming Sex-Positive Parenting
An amazing page that lists all different resources from books to podcasts to printables: Sex Positive Families.
Tips on making discussions around sex less awkward and uncomfortable: Birds and the Bees
I love this “safe space” design. It helps anyone who walks into my home to know we’re a place of open-mindedness and acceptance. Safe Space Artwork.
3) It’s So Dumb that It’s Freaking Hilarious.
Adam and I have trouble finding stuff we both want to watch on Netflix. I know, there are a million options, how is that even possible? Leave it to us to argue about literally anything. But this past weekend we agreed on the movie, “Between Two Ferns” with Zach Galifianakis. If you loved him in The Hangover, then you’ll be obsessed with his role as the ridiculously awkward interviewer as he talks to celebrities like Matthew McConaughey, Tiffany Haddish, Jon Hamm, and so many more.
2) Five episodes of Marriage and Martinis you maybe haven’t listened to but should:
Maybe you’ve heard every single episode of Marriage and Martinis, or maybe you’re a newer listener or you’ve just skipped around to certain topics. Here are a few of our favorites (some oldies but goodies) that you may not have heard but we really think are worth the listen:
Keeping Up With The Joneses (If you want to feel better about your life choices)
The Romance Episode (If you want a reminder that romance after marriage is hard but doable)
Things We’re Embarrassed To Admit (If you want to laugh at some crazy inappropriateness)
The Finance Episode Part One (If you want relatable and simple advice from people who actually know what they're talking about - not us lol)
The Mental Load With Life Coach Amy (If you struggle with the division of labor in the household as much as we do)
1) Date Night Questions (from this coming Monday's podcast episode: Little Gestures, Big Payoffs): these questions are meant to lead to an awesome and fun conversation (and maybe even a make-out session), NOT AN ARGUMENT lol! Take turns asking and answering. Make sure you're subscribed to the podcast to hear all the questions, as well as Adam and my answers to them plus what answers our community gave! *No married couples were harmed in the creation of these questions.
What are a few small gestures I consistently do for you to show you I care that you really appreciate?
What is one small gesture you would love me to start doing to show I'm thinking about you and your needs?
What is the best compliment I've ever given you that you can remember?
What would be one compliment you would absolutely love to get that no one has ever given you before?
Give me one compliment you have never given me before but have thought about.
(If you have kids) What is a small tradition we could start as a celebration for the "small wins" for our kids (i.e. ice cream for breakfast) such as a good test grade or showing random acts of kindness?
For more prompts and questions for open and honest communication, plus bonding challenges and strategies for discussion, get our Date Night Questions Experience ebook.